Saturday, April 27, 2013

50 Empowering Life Tips

  1.  Don't wait around for someone to stick a label on you. If you want to be an animal rights activist, be one. If you want to be a human rights activist do that. Whatever you want to be, go be that. Define yourself. If you wait for someone to define you, you're probably not going to be happy with the label they pick.
  1. No matter what you're religion or higher power, remember that everything you have ever been given or will be given came from the Earth. Honor the Earth and you will be honoring your higher power.
  1. Remember the 60-40 rule. If 60% of your life is going well and 40% of it is failing, you're STILL winning.
  2. You're not made of sugar and you're not going to melt in the rain. Whether literal or metaphorical, rain is no excuse to sit inside and complain that you're bored.
  3. Everyone has their own standard of beauty. Meeting one persons standard means falling short of anothers. Be the beauty that YOU want to see in the mirror.
  4. You are the one and only constant person in your life. You better be good company because guess what? You're stuck with you.
  5. Make a goal to try something new every day.
  6. Everybody has their own truth. What makes sense for one person won't make sense for another. There are very few “rights” when it comes to how things should be done.
  7. When you find yourself in constant conflict, battling everyone around you and suffering one break up after another, then it really IS you. Sorry, but it's true. The good news is that you can fix you.
  8. Some people have combative personalities. There's nothing you can do about it and shoving your perspective under their nose won't convince them that you're right. They will argue with you even when they agree with you.
  9. Grow a plant, they're good therapy. If you suck at keeping plants alive, get a cactus. Recognize the limitations of your abilities and work with them.
  10. Understand that we are all going about our day in the best way that we know how. Nobody is purposely trying to inconvenience you by being in your way.
  11. Getting ahead in life rarely results from staying inside your comfort zone.
  12. Don't be a sexist or racist ass-wipe. It's NOT going to get you anywhere in life. Really.
  13. Finding people who agree with you doesn't mean that you're opinion is superior to another persons, because no matter what your ideology there will always be someone who agrees with it and others who don't.
  14. Don't insult children. It's fine if you don't want them, it's fine if you choose not to be around them, but putting down any child will offend every single parent who hears you and you're going to look like a jerk.
  15. Also, if you don't have children, keep your mouth shut on how they ought to be raised – especially when your beliefs aren't based on what is best for the child, but on making your life a little more comfortable.
  16. None of us know every fact of any situation. Forming solid conclusions about any given person or situation means always being partly wrong.
  17. Do get a soapbox. We all need to feel passionately about something, even when we're partly wrong about it.
  18. Recovery is only impossible if you're dead. Recovery may not always be a hundred percent, but every situation can always get a little bit better than it is right now.
  19. Don't be daunted when faced with an impossible task. Look at the tremendous feats man-kind has performed. A large amount of dirt can be moved by one person, one small shovel at a time.
  20. When you feel like your voice doesn't matter, nothing you do can make a difference, remember this: there are other lonely voices who are singing the same tune at the same time. When those voices are all sung in the same direction, what is heard by the recipient is unison. You're never the only one, so sing loudly.
  21. Get to know crazy people and weirdos. They will enrich your life in ways you cannot imagine.
  22. What you project into the world is what you will receive. Some call this karma. Mostly, it's common sense. There are a few people who manage to be successful assholes, but we know them as the 1%. So that's probably not going to be you. Be nice if you want others to treat you well.
  23. Finding a mate isn't about finding your ideal partner, but finding the person who's ideal partner is you. They're not going to be who you pictured yourself with when you were 13 so let go of your expectations.
  24. Keep an open mind. Don't forget that life is about learning, first and foremost. You continue learning even up into old age.
  25. Most people who are elderly are incredibly wise. Make friends with an old person, they can teach you a lot.
  26. I've never heard a person say that they regret traveling too much and seeing the world or learning about other cultures.
  27. Remember that the way you see the world is limited to the scope of your vision and another person can be standing right beside you and have a much broader view. This will likely change their opinion of what they are seeing.
  28. Pick up trash on the street when you see it. Little things like that can make a big difference when many people do them.
  29. Turn about is fair play. When someone shows you loyalty, remember them and repay the favor when you're able.
  30. Take care of your body and your body will take care of you.
  31. There are superficial jerks in the world, but most of us only want someone who doesn't make us feel badly about ourselves. If you want to make a lot of friends, spend time making a lot of people feel good about themselves. Then you will be genuinely popular, not superficially.
  32. Do you ever notice that in movies, we all seem to root for the same person? No matter what our disagreements in life and the fact that as a society we can be so dramatically polarized, when it comes down to it we all just want the good guy to win.
  33. In our own minds, we ALL think that we are the good guy.
  34. Every substance that exists has it's use, but every substance that exists can be harmful when abused or overused. Moderation is the key to not totally fucking up your life.
  35. Surprisingly, the people on television, movies, on the radio etc. aren't trying to entertain you. They are trying to sell you something. There is no exception, their goal is to get you to spend money in their direction, or in the direction of their sponsors.
  36. When you say things like, “We didn't need that when I was a kid,” bear in mind how boring the world would be if we weren't changing things up all the time.
  37. Being a bully won't get you respect. Remember that the most respected people to have ever walk the earth: Gandhi, Martin Luther King Jr., Mother Teresa, Jesus and others were pacifists and they were revered for their gentle natures.
  38. Parents: Just remember that they way you treat your children will become the way they treat their own.
  39. You can be brilliant, witty and beautiful, but your value to others will always be contingent on what you bring to the table.
  40. In very rare instances, you will find a person who loves you even when what you bring to the table is lacking. Treasure those people. That is called unconditional love and very few will ever give it to you.
  41. Make stuff up. Make up stories, words, songs, anything you want. If you go looking for something and find that it doesn't exist, make it up. Every innovation and cultural advancement that has ever come about, came from somebody deciding not to follow the rules and make it up.
  42. It's never too late to change your game plan.
  43. Stop fretting over the things you haven't done and start looking forward to the things you'll get to do.
  44. Remember what your basic human needs are and focus on them. Television and Nike's aren't among them.
  45. Stop trying to impress people and be someone that others want to impress.
  46. The world does not have unlimited money and resources. When you take more than you need, you are taking from someone who needs it. If you are not willing to take less on that score, be mindful of the fact that someone out there is getting less on account of you.
  47. Love as many people as you can, nobody ever worries that they're going to have too many people at their funeral.
  48. Do what you can to make others feel good. No one in life ever regrets being kind to someone, even when the other person doesn't deserve it.


  1. This is awesome, Destany. Totally brightened my Saturday and probably my whole weekend. I love, "Moderation is the key to not totally fucking up your life," - totally agree. I also love the encouragement to make stuff up. You're a gem.

    1. Awe thanks Melissa! I'm so happy you enjoyed it!

  2. Great list, Destany! I am going to focus on #7. This made me so happy to read and very proud of my children, they embrace so many of the things/qualities on this list. Now off to try something new! ;)

  3. Thanks Angela! I hope what you try is very exciting!